It was a couple months ago when I felt like God was trying to teach me things through my future daughter. I know that sounds extremely crazy, but it was more like, “if my daughter came to me with this problem, how would I advise her to act?” It really helped me to change for the better and to overcome my own obstacles, because I saw them as an opportunity to be the kind of woman I would be happy my daughter would look up to and aspire to become. So, in my last 24 years of life, these are what I’ve learned:
- If you want something, you have to go after it, the world is yours. And whether that’s a career, or even a little room renovation to spark up your inspiration again…DO IT. It’s usually in the little things that lead you into your greatest things.
- Be unapologetically yourself, but always remember to be kind and respectful. Be confident in who you are and who you are fighting to become. People who know your heart will believe the best of you, and those who assume wrong, well, that’s not your business anyway. If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personal.
- Your mind is the most important thing about you, take care of it above everything else. If your mind isn’t right, then neither will your spirit and soul. Think of your mind as a garden, you would only want the most beautiful flowers to bloom, right? So stop watering the weeds. Cut them off and throw them out, and do the same with thoughts that don’t bring you to life.
- Take lots and lots of pictures. It may feel weird doing so in public, but remember, those people don’t know you, and you don’t know them…and you’re most likely never going to see each other again, so what they may think does not matter. Take pictures, document the big occasions and the mundane routines, because some day, they will be all you have left.
- Your identity is solely in Christ. Not in others, and definitely not in how others treat you. You are bigger than your job, your homework assignments and the difficult teacher. You are bigger than the most intimidating boss in the workplace. And always remember, if it wasn’t for God, none of them would be here…and He’s on your side!
- Don’t expect anything from anybody. I don’t mean not to have certain, healthy expectations from people like your spouse, family, and friends, because everyone has a role to play, but do not wrap your spirit around any one of them. We are all human, and we will disappoint — even you will disappoint and fall short of expectations, but if you do something nice for someone, don’t ever expect them to pay you back, even if they should out of common sense or courtesy. If they bless you, be thankful, if they don’t, don’t worry. Always remember that it’s better to be the one smiling, than the one who didn’t smile back.
- And finally, the most important, and personally my favorite thing I have learned was taught to me by my mother. Every age in life has its sweetness. Some years may be better than others, but there is ALWAYS good days within each year. And the tricky thing about this is that you never realize it until the days have already passed. So no matter how hard things can be, please remember that you are where you need to be, and you will look back and miss those days to some extent. And keep in mind, God loves you way too much to keep you there…so good days are always ahead.